Everyone wants to find a relationship that will stand the test of time, but if you’re in one that just isn’t going to work, then you might find yourself wondering how to break up. Break ups are never fun, and they are never easy, but there are a few things that you can do to make them a bit less traumatic.

 

1. Do it in person. It’s tempting to just send someone a message saying “You’re dumped”, but it’s probably not the best way to go about it. If this person is someone that you once had feelings for, it’s better to let them know face to face.

 

2. Be honest. You have to be honest with yourself and with them. Make sure you know why you are breaking up, and if you can, try and make sure that they know too. If all you can come up with is “I used to like them, but I just don’t feel that way anymore” then that’s fine! You can’t change the way you feel. If you know in your own mind the reason why you have to break up, then you will be a lot more confident about what you’re doing. 

 

3. Understand that they might be upset. Breaking up is unpleasant, and having someone break up with you is even more unpleasant! Try and be patient with them, but also remember that you don’t need to put up with them being petty or insulting. 

 

4. Remember that you’re doing the right thing. If a relationship isn’t going to work, then it needs to end. That’s all there is too it. You can’t stay with someone that isn’t right for you. It’s best for each of you if the relationship ends, so that both of you can find happiness with new people.

 

5. Don’t put it off! If you know that you are going to have to break up, do it sooner rather than later. The longer that you let the relationship drag on for, the more uncomfortable the break up will be. Get it over and done with, so that you can both move on with your lives.

 

If you decide that maybe the relationship is worth saving, you should read How to Save a Relationship.