Everyone wants to know how to find somebody to love, and to have somebody love them in return. Love is not always easy to come by, but it’s definitely worth the effort. Before we get into the list of ways to find love, I want to share a famous love quote with you:

“If you would be loved, love and be lovable.”

- Benjamin Franklin

 

How to find love:

 

1. Be confident. Confidence is hugely attractive to both men and women. At a party if there is one guy telling jokes, and another guy sitting in the corner having a drink by himself, it’s safe to say that most of the interest and attention will be on the first guy. There is nothing right or wrong about it, it is just the way human beings work. Make sure that you don’t cross the line from confidence into arrogance though. That’s never a good look.

 

2. Make time to meet people. If you want to know how to find love, then you need to look for it. If you spend every day at work and every night at home watching TV, then it’s going to be much harder for you to meet the guy or girl of your dreams. You MUST get out of the house to meet new people. Go to parties. Join a sporting team. Travel over seas. Take in a play with some friends. Get involved with a book club. It doesn’t matter what you do, as long as it gets you out there meeting new people. 

 

3. Decide what you want in a love relationship. Are you looking for a soul mate, or just someone to hang out with? Do you want a partner who will take control in the relationship, or someone who is just cool to go with the flow? Do you want someone sporty? Someone who likes the same movies as you? Someone who is vegan? Someone who plays the guitar and can join your band? Deciding what you want is a very important step towards getting it. If you don’t know what you want from love, then sometimes it’s hard to tell when you’ve found it. Who knows, you might even discover that your friend from table tennis is exactly what you wanted all along.

 

4. Relax. Nothing hurts your chances with a new person more than when you come across as desperate. Take it easy, and don’t make a big deal out of this whole “love” thing. It’s going to happen. All you have to do is get out there, make sure that you are looking for it, and then trust that it will happen. You are definitely going to find what you want, as long as keep trying. So there is no need to stress.

 

5. Be lovable. If you want somebody to love you, then you have to be the type of person that someone could love. Are you caring? Are you honest? Are you fun to be with? Are you generous? Are you the sort of person that you would want your brother or sister to date? Do you treat others with respect, and do you have respect for yourself as well? If you can’t answer yes to these questions, then maybe you should work out why, and find a way to change that. For someone to love and respect you, you must first be able to love and respect yourself. Make sure that you do.

 

6. Don’t quit looking! This is sometimes the hardest step of all. At one point or another we have all felt that we won’t find love. We have all thought “Well, maybe what I want doesn’t even exist, and I’m just going to end up alone anyway”. Ignore those thoughts! You are a lovable person, who deserves to be loved, and therefore you are definitely going to find love. No doubt about it. Just don’t give up, and love will be your destiny.