Relationship break up advice: A break up from your boyfriend, girlfriend, or partner is not something that anyone wants to go though. We all hope that the person we are with will be the love of our life forever. While it seems easy to admit that nobody is perfect, and to accept that there will always be a few irritating things that your partner does, sometimes the differences between two people are insurmountable.

If you aren’t sure where you stand in the relationship, you might want to read: “Troubled Relationships”, and see if that sounds like the situation you find yourself in.

If you have already broken up, you should read: “How to get over a Break Up”

In relationships, some things are more important than others. Your partner leaving the cap off the toothpaste is a very small problem for example. It would obviously be a bit extreme to break up over something like that. Other issues can be very significant though. If any of the following situations become reoccurring problems, then breaking up and starting again might be the only solution.

 

1. You don’t communicate anymore.

It might sound like a cliché, but communication is the most important part of any relationship. It really is. As long as you can talk openly and honestly to each other, then you will be able to sort out any issues that come up between the two of you. If you can’t communicate, then small problems will become bigger and bigger, and the relationship will come to a grinding halt. If you can’t fix this one, then it’s definitely time to leave.

 

2. You don’t enjoy the relationship.

A relationship can start out well, but then your wants, desires, hopes and dreams change as time goes on. That’s completely ok. There is nothing wrong with that at all. It’s natural for people to grow as time goes by, and as they grow, sometimes they change. If you find yourself in a relationship you aren’t enjoying anymore, then it’s ok to leave. Don’t ever stay with someone if the relationship is no longer what you want and need. Let it go. There will be a better and more fulfilling relationship for you out there, and a better one for them also.

 

3. The respect is gone.

This can happen slowly, or in the blink of an eye. Respect is vital for a relationship to stay strong. If you are disillusioned or disappointed in your partner, and can’t respect them anymore, then the relationship cannot endure. It is the same situation if your partner loses respect for you.  A couple that doesn’t respect each other isn’t a couple at all.

 

4. Your partner cheats on you.

Nobody should be with someone who disrespects their relationship that much. Fidelity and loyalty are strongly linked to trust and respect in a relationship. If you are not important enough for your partner to remain faithful, then the relationship isn’t what it needs to be.

 

5. You don’t find your each other attractive anymore.

We all know that looks are not the most important thing in a relationship, however some level of physical attraction is a necessity; otherwise you are better off just being friends. If you used to be attracted to each other, but aren’t any more, see if you can work out what changed. At the end of the day, if you aren’t interested in some level of physical intimacy, then perhaps you should be friends, rather than lovers.

 

This list is far from exhaustive of course. There might be things that your partner does that haven’t been covered by this list. There are some other examples in the Troubled Relationships article.

It’s important to think things though carefully however. There is nothing worse than having a relationship end, and then wondering if you could have saved it. If you decide that the relationship is worth salvaging, read “How to Save a Relationship”.

If you know that it’s time to let the relationship go though, you should read “How to Break Up”.